Eavesdropping and what goes first




Confession—I’m a terrible eavesdropper. Most writers are. It’s how we get valuable insights into characters’ behavior.

The other day, I was out shopping, and two women in the next aisle were chatting. In my defense, I could hear them clearly so I wasn’t being sneaky, but I may have lingered in the that aisle a bit longer than I needed to. I’d already determined from several factors that these women were of another religion and not Christian in their beliefs. One of them spotted a Bible in the store. “Oh, I’ve been meaning to read the Bible and learn more.” The other suggested a translation other than the one in the store as well as a book, comparing their religion with Christianity. I imagine the book contrasted Christianity in a more negative way based on other comments made in the conversation.

But the point is this, I would have never imagined there would be even a faint interest in Christianity. But their limited understanding indicated they thought of it as a works-based religion like theirs. I couldn’t figure out how to interject myself in the conversation in a way that might be accepted, so I have prayed for those two women and hope they find the truth.

It was a strong reminder to me that we can’t judge anyone based on the externals and know where their heart is, so instead of pulling away, we lean in. We listen. We wait for the time when there’s an opening, and we speak the truth with all the love of Jesus. We live out that love. Because anyone we meet who is not a believer may be far more open than we imagine.

The whole experience made me re-orient how I see certain folks in our culture.

Mother Teresa said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”

Love goes first looking past the hindrances.

Words that always moves me are the ones Jesus spoke to Zacchaeus. Knowing full well who he was and what he’d done, a seeming outcast in society, Jesus looked up into the tree at where Zacchaeus was perched to see him, and said, “Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today” (Luke 19:10).

Jesus could have said, “Yuk, a tax collector.”  He didn’t.

And yet, sometimes when we see folks dressed a certain way, or acting a certain way, we want to flee. Instead, let’s go to folks’ houses, literally and figuratively.

I’m still praying and hope to never forget those two women and their unexpected openness.

And if you’re out shopping and spot me in the next aisle. Beware. I’m probably listening.